Stuck in Wife’s Friend Zone: Become the Alpha Again
Finding yourself in your wife’s friend zone is one of those “worst case scenario” situations in marriage. Sure, friendship is a sweet deal in marriage, but what happens when your wife goes all the in with the whole “just buddy” thing?
It means she is losing attraction for you. It means you’re no longer the man she was once madly in love with. It also means it won’t be long before she asks for space, starts sees someone new, moves out, or even serves you some divorce papers!
However, how did you get into this tricky situation?
Several reasons may have brought forth this uncomfortable predicament.
Maybe you:
- Stopped leading the relationship
- Lost masculinity
- Are less dominant in the bedroom
The possibilities are endless.
Let’s work with these possibilities first.
You stopped leading the relationship
C’mon! This is a no brainer. A husband should be the alpha in the relationship.
A masculine man should always lead the relationship. Not only will fitting in this role make you happy, but it will also keep your wife in her feminine energy.
Taking a step back from this role makes you a beta in the relationship. You lose some appeal in her eyes.
Heck!
You could even lose everything she ever felt for you.
Here are some instances of a bad husbandly leader:
- Forgetting about the family, abusing your privileges at the expense of your family
- Never making sacrifices for the family
- Assuming the future is fine and doing nothing to secure a better future
- Neglecting the family, lagging on responsibilities s and leaving everything to the wife
- Shifting blame to those around you and never taking responsibilities for your actions
- Running away from conflicts instead of solving them
Lost masculinity
Lost masculinity is one of the worst!
Letting yourself go, not standing up for yourself, depending on your wife, acting weak and other embarrassing less masculine factors can lead to your masculine energy in the marriage declining.
Remember, your masculine energy as the husband is one of your wife’s determiners staying attracted to you or becoming less attracted. A masculine man should maintain this crucial energy to grow the attraction a woman has for him.
Else, find yourself in the friend zone once the attraction has faded away.
You are less dominant in the bedroom
Sex is great.
Great sex even better
Great sex does bring a couple closer. Intimacy can do that. In addition, yes, your wife can friend zone you when you consistently lag in this crucial role. You could easily become a beta in the marriage and find yourself in this dreaded zone.
However,
Sex is not everything in marriage.
A lot comes to play to make a marriage work. Several factors work hand in hand to make the marriage successful. Sex could be great, but everything else is shambles. Your wife friend zones you, and you can’t fathom why so when you are the bedroom bully.
Remember, a great sex life would not have kept your wife in the marriage, and horrible sex life can still not make her leave.
Conclusion:
No wife wants lousy sex. It can be a real deal-breaker for some, but it can’t always be why your wife wants out.
What do you do?
You are in your wife’s friend zone. Yes, it sucks.
Fortunately, there are real solutions to this predicament. You can still save your marriage. You can get your woman back.
Use friendship to rebuild trust and connectionWhen your wife is no longer attracted to you, your first impulse could probably how to get her back instantly.
Instead of going around the friendship, consider going through it to rebuild what you once had with your wife.
Remember, you were once friends before becoming romantically involved and deciding to build a family together.
Still, since your wife still views you as a friend, you have numerous options to work with to get the attraction back.
For instance,
- You can casually ask her out and do the fun things you both used to do.
- Don’t force intimacy with her. Instead, physically touch her in a casual, friendly way- just as a friend would.
- Do nice things to her as a friend, not as a lover. And without expecting anything back.
- Casually ask her what she has been up to. On the same note, share the improvements in your life with her. The key here is to keep things casual and talk to her as a friend/
These are just a few of the casual things to do when your wife is concerned. While you might not do the above, the crucial thing to get from this is spending some friendly time with her.
- Work on yourself
Spending time with your wife is not enough if the old you self remains. While making the most of your friendly time with her, figure out how to be the man your wife once found attractive. Get your groove back.
Get your looks and style back on point.
Get in shape.
Get your messy situations back in order.
Do everything to get her attracted to you again like your marriage depend on it, because it actually does.
- Become the leader in the relationship
A weak man is just a no to every woman out there. It’s a major reason for most women wanting out of a marriage.
Now you need to bring your A-game and start leading the relationship again. Become the family man you should be-the alpha in the relationship. It will be tough journey, but totally worth it.
Keep in mind that that:
Your actions will determine if you are an alpha male. As the leader in the relationship, you should know what you are doing and work towards your marriage vision. Do everything driven by love for your wife and your family.
Focus on being a man, and she is sure to come around. She will love it, and you will be out of the friend zone in no time.
- Back off and give her the cold shoulder
When everything fails, go missing in action and play hard to get. Ignore her. Show her you can be happy without her.
Focus on your life. Work on building your life outside the marriage. Just don’t chase her.
However, be nice to her when she comes to you and withdraw after that.
Chances are, she will wonder why you no longer care and that for sure is bound to hurt her a bit, if not much. She is likely to get interested in what you have been to, what has been taking all your time.
This is why getting your groove back is vital.
If she notices that you have made massive changes in your life, while ignoring her, she will feel she is missing a lot and want in.
At this point, she will chase you. Moreover, just like you will have her back, But you need to continue being this new man else you lose her again.
Summing it up
Friend zone in marriage sucks. When your wife friend zones you, you need to recognize that the attraction you need to rebuild needs some serious approach. Start by using the friendly approach and result to ignoring her if this doesn’t work. The key is working on yourself, work on the weak points, and something will finally give.
Finally, patience is everything. Even Rome was not built in a day!