Writing Quiz 3
Response 1 (Male)
- I am highly likely to speak up in class if I know the answer because that way, one is able to remember their contribution to a particular subject permanently. I would not answer if I have any form of self-doubt with regard to the question asked even when there is a high probability of my answer being right
- I seldom argue with my close friends because I believe that if there is a calmer way of talking about an issue, then that is the way. I also avoid any form of conformation, especially when emotions are high. I resort to walking away and returning to the conversation only when we can talk soberly. I rarely argue with strangers unless we find ourselves talking about a subject where we hold opposing opinions. When this is the case, I only argue because I want to present my thinking and not because I want to diminish theirs. That way, it becomes easier to discuss until we come to an agreement. However, I am highly likely to argue with a stranger if I am standing up for myself against something they do or say that is offensive, or when they do or say something offensive to another person who is in no position to defend themselves.
- To be able to communicate better with women, it is important to look past the façade and see the real person beneath it. Choose to look at the perfect version of a person that lies underneath and talk to that person. Furthermore, it is essential to build common ground and understanding by finding out what you like about a girl, making a positive and decent comment about it, and proceeding to strike a conversation with that person if they are responsive and welcoming.
Response 2 (Female)
- I am highly likely to speak up in class if I know the answer. I would not speak up in class if the class is boring or if I feel I have over-participated in that class and would like to give my peers a chance to participate too. I also would not answer a question based on a very controversial topic where the answer required is against my belief system.
- I like to argue with my friends, especially on constructive issues that one can gain knowledge and insight from. I am a highly opinionated person who makes sure they are heard. I, however, do not like to argue about issues to do with the friendship, and I often resolve to reach a middle ground with the other party when we are sober, which requires that one gives the other time and space to think about the happenings that led to an argument. As for strangers, as long as it is nothing that negatively affects me or a person next to me who seems defenseless towards the offensive words and actions of the person in question, I have no business arguing with strangers. Even when I am hard-pressed to contribute to an ongoing discussion among people I am unfamiliar with, I will hold my thoughts and go over them in my personal time or with my friends.
- To be able to communicate better with men, avoid subjects on which you disagree with because that will highly likely lead to conflict as a guy might end up hating your guts when you take an opposing viewpoint to theirs to try and convince them that they are wrong. Avoid hotly contested topics such as politics if you are likely to disagree. Moreover, learn to respect the personal space of a guy. You do not need to over text, over-communicate, over show up in their faces when you are least needed. Do not be needy.
Response 3 (Male)
- I am less likely to speak up in class because I am a timid person. I also get really scared about being bashed for giving an incorrect answer. Despite this, I am very attentive in class and ask any required help from my peers after class. When picked to answer a question in class, I would not answer when I feel that the answer is incorrect or when I feel somebody else will give a better answer and supporting explanation than myself.
- I seldom argue with my close friends, but it is always chaotic when I do it because it is most definitely an indication that it is a pattern of behavior that has been continuously offending me. However, I try and communicate my feelings about certain words and actions but often on a light note so as not to create any form of conflict. Even then, I mean every word I say. I have never argued with a stranger, and I think I probably will never because I loathe conflict and unnecessary confrontations with people generally, and even worse, with people, I do not know. I get scared by the fact that an argument might escalate into a fight and pose a grave danger to myself and other people around, and it might attract unnecessary attention. I walk away from any situation that threatens to become a fully-fledged conflict.
- To improve communication with women, learn to respect other people’s personal space. Know when to talk and when not to talk. Further, know when you are required to give an opinion and when you are not required to. Mind your personal hygiene as a guy. Do not approach a woman when you are smelly, have bad breath, and unkempt hair as it is a sure turn-off. Pay a little attention to your wardrobe, look clean, and do not wear old threadbare clothes.
Response 4 (Female)
- I am highly likely to speak up in class if I know the answer because that does not only boost my attendance, but it also helps me convey important information that my peers will highly benefit from. I am likely not to answer when I am in a bad mood, when I am feeling unwell, or when I am bored with the class.
- I would say I argue a lot with my close friends, constructive arguments that is. Constructive arguments help strengthen a relationship and make one determine their compatibility with other persons as well as what they are supposed to learn or unlearn to become better individuals and friends. I would say it is an in-between of seldom to highly likely. I am a defensive friend. I like standing up for my friends. I would most definitely defend my friends from strangers that disrespect them unprovoked. I would also stand up for myself against a stranger who crosses my line and who shows me unwarranted disrespect and put them in their place.
- To improve communication with men, I would advise women to communicate with men only when they have established a common ground and understand that it is viable to communicate in the first place. Do not force communication on a guy just because you consider yourself pretty and demand to be noticed. Besides, know when to talk and when not to, and when to give an opinion and when to refrain from giving an opinion. Be wise enough to leave a conversation that is likely to get heated and confrontational if there is no legitimate reason to progress the argument.