Bondage sex offers you an opportunity to spice up your relationship and sex life. It is one of the most revered activities for people in submissive relationships. You have probably watched fifty Shades of Grey and therefore have a clue about BDSM. The ‘B’ in BDSM stands for bondage.
Even though most people see bondage as a kinky fetish, it serves as an excellent way of fulfilling your deep sexual desires. It locks one party, making him or her vulnerable to a range of sexual acts. Bondage, therefore, offers you total control over your partner during sex.
We have something for you in case you are planning on getting started with bondage. We will discuss bondage ideas that can spice up your bedroom, making you experience real sexual gratification. Take a look!
- Using a normal tie
Have you ever imagined that a man’s tie can help you enjoy sex twice as much? If you haven’t, then there you have it. A standard suit tie made of satin or silk offers one of the best avenues of getting started with bondage.
There are several ways that you can turn your tie into a bedroom accessory provided that it is of the right length and size. You can either choose to tie the hands of your partner behind his or her back or front. I would, however, advise that you tie them behind the back for maximum control.
You can then tie the remainder of the tie to the bed or furniture once your partner’s wrists have been tied. You can also choose to use the tie as a leash to move your partner as you have sex comfortably.
If you want to up the fun, you can use the suit tie to blindfold your partner so that he/she cannot anticipate what is coming next. A tie can also be used as a gag to prevent your partner from loud moans. Feel free and creative as you use the tie.
- Cuffing your partner
Most people underestimate the role of handcuffs in bondage sex. Bondage is all about authority, and using handcuffs fulfills the bad cop fantasy, that a lot of people are aching to experience. Handcuffs immobilize your partner’s wrists, ensuring that they do not interfere midway.
An excellent hack that will make bondage sex even more pleasing is using metal cuffs, which presses the skin. This would also work well if your partner craves pain during sex. You can also reinforce the cuffs using fillers such as clothes if they are quite loose.
However, take care not to tighten the cuffs to the point that your partner feels uncomfortable. Also, ensure that you can easily unlock the handcuffs after you are done to avoid cheap embarrassments. You don’t want to involve a blacksmith in your little secret.
- Using a rope
The rope is the most used bondage tool. Most people prefer using it because it is easily accessible. Unless you are looking for something specific, you don’t have to visit the sex store. Start imagining how you can use a rope during bondage.
A rope gives you the liberty of tying your partner in different positions until he or she is vulnerable to your sex acts. You can try the hogtie, where you tie your partner’s hands to his or her feet behind the back for ultimate control. Make sure that the rope is smooth to prevent your partner from coming out with a chaffed skin. If possible, use one made of nylon.
However, if you are into rough sex, a rope made of hemp or manilla will serve you just fine. You can also have ropes tied to the four corners of the bed to save you time when the need arises. You will need more ropes if you want to attach your partner to the edges in various positions.
One good thing about using ropes is that they are easy to conceal. You can easily tuck away them away from visible eyes after you are done. Ropes work for rope bunnies, a fancy name for people who like being tied up during sex.
- Using a collar with an O ring
Can you try imagining what you could do with a collar with an O ring? Such a collar serves many functions, provided that the ring is in front. Your partner can use a tie or even a rope to tie you to the collar, making you surrender your nether regions to him or her.
You can also attach a traditional leash or chain to the collar to restrain your partner. You can also get a collar with multiple rings, which will allow you to bind your neck from the back of his or her neck. However, make sure that the collar is strong enough to allow you to pull and move your partner effortlessly.
- Using cable zip ties
Zip ties are a lot of people’s favorite because they are easy to use. These bondage tools hold together cables or wires that are used in bondage sex. Most zip ties are made of plastic-like nylons. You can either settle on a clear or black zip tie.
You only need to put them around your partner’s wrists the way you do with handcuffs and then wind the tail through the loop to lock them. These tools are powerful, and the more your partner fights, the more he or she risks getting cut. It also serves people who crave pain during sex (you can also end up with some cute marks)
Take note that these ties differ in sizes. For maximum sexual satisfaction, get the longer ones that will give you more control of your partner. More extended zip ties are also easy to get out in case of anything. You can easily cut them and release them. Unfortunately, you cannot reuse the zip ties. On the brighter side, they are cheap, and therefore, you can buy them anytime you want to try bondage sex.
- Using a spreader bar
A spreader bar is another essential tool that can help you spice up your bondage sessions. It is used to keep the limbs apart, giving you unlimited access to your partner’s nether regions. Remember, bondage sex aims at providing your partner with total control of your body during sex.
The spreader is attached to the ankles of your partner, and the length of the bar manipulated to keep the legs wide apart. You can also get spreader bars with cuffs that will see your partner’s hands attached next to the feet for total control and vulnerability. The dominant partner will, therefore, have the liberty of doing whatever they wish.
However, ensure that you try opening the cuffs beforehand so that you avoid an embarrassing situation. Also, ensure that the key is to reach all the time.
- Shibari/ Kinbaku
These two terms describe one of the most practiced types of Japanese bondage. Most people use these two terms interchangeably when they mean two different things in real sense. Shibari refers to the standard practice of rope tying, only that it is done artistically.
Kinbaku, on the other hand, is the sexual form of this general rope tying. An excellent hack that would help you master these two bondage approaches is visiting different shows and events organized by roper masters. You will get to learn intricate bondage styles, which are more of a ritualistic approach.
Kinkabu also has several techniques, such as the crotch rope tie and the Strappado bondage, where the dominant partner ties the hands of the sub behind and pulls them up in a dominant position. You can also try the suspension bondage, which is a crucial technique of Kinkabu.
- Undone restraints
Bondage sex is mostly rough, and the truth of the matter is that the restraints risk getting undone in the end. It doesn’t matter how excellent the dominant partner’s tying skills are. You don’t have to feel embarrassed or frustrated when this happens.
Several people also feel like stopping the act and trying out a new thing, which should not be the case. In case you are the sub partner and notice that the restraints are getting loser, you can playfully inform your partner in a sexy way to reinforce them.
You can also reinforce the restraints quickly without your partner noticing if you are the dominant party. Do not let a loose restraint prevent you from enjoying bondage sex with your partner. Just fix back the restrains without making it too noticeable.
You can also reduce the chances of such instances by working on your rope tying technique. Ensure that you fasten the ropes properly. However, make sure that your partner does not get hurt in the process or come out with a chaffed skin.
Conclusion
There are several ways that you can make bondage sex enjoyable. We have looked at eight starting points in case you are a beginner. I hope that our article will spice up your next visit to the sex store.